PART 3 ( A 3 part blog on Jealousy)
Is God okay with jealousy?
Isaiah 14:14, “I will ascend to the heavens; I will raise my throne above the stars of God, I will sit enthroned on the mount of assembly, on the utmost heights of Mount Zaphon. I will ascend above the tops of the clouds; I will make myself like the Most High.”
How did God respond to Lucifer’s declaration? Ezekiel 10: 17 says So I threw you to the earth… Lucifer was thrown out of heaven, he and his rebellious angels. Verse 15 says that God created him, and he was blameless till wickedness was found in him.
And what was his wickedness? It was that he was jealous of God. He become so proud of his own beauty and splendor that he thought he could do better solo. How did God reward him for his pride and jealousy? He was forever banished from the sight of God and can there be any greater punishment than that?
God sees jealousy as wickedness and sin and God can’t be around any form of sin, so if your jealousy is going to separate you from God and lead you to fall into other kinds of sin, are the fruits of jealousy really worth it? Do you want to be banished from God’s presence?
How to overcome jealousy
Learning to be content with all you have
2 Samuel 12:3 - There is something about this story that touches my heart. The poor man had just one ewe lamb. He was so happy with the lamb, he ate with him, he allowed him to drink from his cup, and he allowed him to sleep beside him. This story shows me contentment comes from the heart, not with how much or how many things you have. This poor man could have been jealous of his neighbours 1000 sheep but no he chose to be happy with just one lamb and he took such good care of him.
We too should be happy with what we have – a one room house, or a 15 year old car, a 2000 model computer or a phone that still has to become smart. We should learn to be thankful for what we have. Go before God everyday and ask him for the gift of contentment.
Learning to be content in all situations
I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances -Philippians 4:11
Paul goes on to say that he has learned the secret of contentment. Contentment is something we have to learn, it’s not something we inherit from our parents, its something we need to learn at the feet of God and by watching others who have mastered the art of contentment. In a country where we are a minority, it’s hard to practice contentment when missionaries are thrown into jail or worse killed, churches vandalized, the government coming down strong on any Christian work, but think of Paul and be encouraged. He too was thrown into jail, beaten, starved, but in time he learned how to be content in all situations.
Learning to surrender to God
The world will tell you it’s okay to be jealous, it’s natural, normal. But now you know how God responds to jealousy and how jealousy leads to other kinds of evil. One way of overcoming jealousy is to learn to completely surrender before God. Be open and transparent before God. “God, how come she is married with kids and I am 30+ and still living with my parents, it’s driving me mad. But God I know you are in control of my life” “Lord, how could you let him get the promotion? He so didn’t deserve it. I feel like slapping that smug smile off his face. Father I know you have good thing in store for me too. Help me trust You”. Let it all out. God already knows what’s in your heart, but He wants you to share it with Him. Don’t try to hide it pretend, “Oh, I am so happy you are married with children (but your heart is screaming I HATE YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN ARE SO STUPID). The jealousy broth will keep boiling it will make its way little below the surface and then when you least expect it, it will rise up and overpower you – you might not kill like Cain, chase like Saul or plot like Joseph’s 10 brothers but it will find out what your weakness is and use it to lure you into its trap of destruction.
If you are finding it hard to deal with jealousy in your life, ask the Holy Spirit for help, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” Once you have God on your side, jealousy doesn’t stand a chance.
Jacqueline Olivia works for a Bangalore based publishing company. She enjoy good discussions on spiritual and non spiritual topics. She loves animals, reading, illustrating and making new friends.